[BM Weekly] Fortune is Merry…

I’ve been immersed in Shakespeare again.  A performance of ‘The Merry Wives of Windsor’ at the weekend and then a surprise trip to the McCready theatre in Rugby to see an Audience with Sir Gregory Doran, former Artistic Director of the Royal Shakespeare Company and one my all time favourite directors.

He talked about – among many other topics – how some people go to see a play for the quotes.  In other words, the lines they recognise.

Reflecting on this, I began to wonder whether we sometimes lose the meaning or profundity of a line simply because it is so familiar.

The line above, ‘Fortune is merry – and in this mood will grant us anything’ is one I like because it carries with it (for me) such a joyful feeling.

Have you ever felt as though you can have anything you want?  That’s what this line is about.  In times past, people ascribed their moods, behaviour and results to outside forces – or Gods.

We know better than to do that, but we can still experience that joyful feeling when everything and anything feels possible.  Try saying the line out loud and notice how you feel…

[Audio] Always a Woman – Self-confidence

In this episode Wilma and Dianne discuss self-confidence – where does it come from?  Do women struggle with it more than men?  Is a lack of confidence sometimes a good thing?

The topic was triggered by a post of LinkedIn that Wilma saw and was quite cross about…

[BM Weekly] Train Your Brain

This week I’m sharing the recording of a session that I did as part of the Coaching Pro Live 2024 Summit, organised by Enrique Jurado, a fellow member of the NLP Leadership Summit.

My talk is about Well-formed Outcomes – one of my favourite pieces of NLP because I have seen so many people transform their lives using this process (me included).

Essentially, it gives your brain an effective way to think about goals, objectives, outcomes.  A way to think about them that makes it easier to achieve them.

Is it worth half an hour of your time to watch the video and find out how to train your brain to achieve your goals?  Get yourself a cup of tea (or something) and settle in…

[Audio] Always a Woman – ‘Walking and (not) Talking’

Thank you everyone who listened to Episode 1 and shared their feedback with me.

In Episode 2, Wilma and I are walking beside the canal and we discuss the value of time spent alone, why getting away from your technology is important and our different experiences of travelling on a canal.

 

[BM Weekly] Switching sides

Last week I had a lovely holiday in Tuscany.  We hired a car and drove around some of the places you can only reach by car – and often the final stage is only on foot.

This photo was taken in San Gimignano, famous for it’s medieval ‘sky-scrapers’.  They’re hard to photograph on a phone. which is why I’m sharing this picture instead.

One of the interesting challenges of the week was driving a left-hand drive car on the opposite side of the road from the one we drive on in the UK.  I have done it before but it’s something that needs a greater level of concentration and mental energy.

I also know that the greatest risk often comes at the point of starting to feel comfortable and confident.  This is when the ‘autopilot’ can take over and there’s a danger of driving on the wrong side of the road without realising it.

A long time ago, someone gave me a great piece of advice:  as driver, you’re in the middle of the road not the edge.

When negotiating a junction, it’s a really useful check point.  Am I in the centre of the road?

What also helped enormously was the ‘co-pilot’ dialogue my friend and I developed.  Having another pair of eyes on the sat-nav and the road really helped me.

 

We know that doing an unfamiliar task or doing a familiar task in a new way engages the brain in a totally different way.  It puts us in a learning frame of mind as opposed to the ‘autopilot’ mode and it opens up the opportunity to make new mental connections.

At times, I felt as though my brain was fizzing!

Having said that, I found the whole experience quite stimulating and enjoyable.  I’ve come back home thinking that it’s something we could build into life quite easily…

For example, try brushing your teeth with the opposite hand.  Have a go at using your non-preferred hand for household tasks like washing up, dusting or vacuuming.

Put your phone in the opposite hand…

There are lots of possibilities.  I’d love to hear your ideas and experiences.

[BM Weekly] Flaming June

You may know that I do a lot of work in the tech sector.  But not all of my work.  Over the past year I have been working with leaders at the Royal Academy of Arts and last week before I left the building I took the opportunity to see the famous painting, ‘Flaming June’ by Leighton.

I was curious to see the painting because I’ve seen reproductions of it.  I even once – when I was much younger and had much longer hair – had a card bearing this picture sent to me by a boyfriend ‘because it reminded him of me’!  (I’ve always valued my sleep)

Like anything, the reality is way more impressive than any photograph or reproduction.

It’s quite large – bigger than I was expecting – and the colours are startlingly bright.  I stood and admired it for a minute or two and enjoyed just taking it in.

Why is this my inspiration of the week?

Because it reminded me that the Real Thing is always worth a few minutes of our time.  Or a an hour or two.  Or a day.  You can look at the photo of ‘Flaming June’ and think you’ve seen it.  But you haven’t.  Not really.

The same applies to anything you look up online.

My question is, where can you benefit from the Real Thing?  Live theatre or music?  An in-person meeting?  A hardback book instead of an e-reader?  Food cooked from scratch instead of a takeaway?

(And if you do want to see Flaming June for real, here’s a link to get the details of the exhibition:  https://www.royalacademy.org.uk/exhibition/flaming-june )